Something clicks inside me when I am the only one responsible for my children. I have an ability to adapt to any situation. I can calmly settle disputes. I can even prepare multiple meals simultaneously while remembering everyone’s dietary restrictions and meal presentation preferences. I don’t know where it comes from, but I’d like to channel it more often.
I realized during a recent weekend while caring for my niece and nephew, as well as my four kids, that I like the “Dad’s in charge” Daddy. My kids like him too. I want to be him more often.
So what’s different about that guy? First of all, that Daddy isn’t trying to do anything but take care of the kids. He usually leaves the tv off and the phone on the charger and is ENGAGED with the children.
Next, I think he genuinely wants to woo his wife again. It’s like the safety of the children and cleanliness of the house are the quest that will win the kiss from the princess. The smile when she comes home and sees everything in order and knows there were no ER visits is a priceless treasure worthy of any great knight’s heroism. It is always worth the effort.
Lastly, “Dad’s in charge” Dadddy likes his kids. It’s amazing what focusing on your children for a while will do for your opinion of them. They go from in the way to helping out. No longer too noisy, they are now rocking out to some classic 90s music you are introducing them to. This is the time when the memories are made. This is what they’ll talk about when they’re 25.
Yes, I think “Dad’s in charge” Daddy should make appearances while mommy is home. I think that my wife and children deserve me to be more engaged. They need me to have the needs of my spouse in mind, and most of all they need me to like them. Say goodbye to “Mom’s got it, time to check out” Daddy. “Dads in charge” Daddy is here to stay.
Author: Michael Prince
Michael Prince co-authored “What’s in Your Pocket? A parent’s guide to protecting your children online.” with his wife Melinda. They have four kids and live in an RV anywhere in the USA they see the need for an internet safety expert. Michael is leading the conversation in the American Church about family online security. He and Melinda founded BecauseFamily, a ministry that exists to inspire and equip parents to be the first influence in the lives of their children, in 2013. Michael is also a geek and loves Star Wars, Doctor Who, the Marvel Cinematic Universe, and strategy board games.